I would call or email Adam's and ask them what they would use for your wheels. If you have an Amazon Prime account, you could order the 2 products you want. Honestly, I typically order from Adam's directly because one, I think I get the freshest product that way. 2, they almost always have a sale, which covers the cost of shipping 3, they have the best customer service. Keep your gallon of APC. Plenty of uses for it on a car or even the household. Works wonders on cleaning my stove.
Yes, the brilliant glaze isn't a last step product. Now if you were at a show, you could use it for that topper of gloss. Adam's Glass Sealant works well. Doesn't keep your window clean, but makes it way easier to clean, and at higher speeds, the water really does fly off well.
I did not like the Tire Armor. Your tire has to be super, super clean. When it starts to wear off, it flakes. You can't get it off by normal means. They actually have a tire armor cleaner, if you call and request it, to get the damn stuff off your tire. VRT is popular, works well, is more of satin/matte finish and is water based. Tire Shine will last longer, and gives lots of shine.
Wipe down the tire with Waterless Wash on a microfiber to get the dust off. I completely understand about OCD, or CDO (OCD spelled alphabetically)