Fertility Issues

[MAYBEN]

I was hoping to find out if any of the Adam's Family has had similar issues or experience with this. I apologize in advance for being a little graphic.

 

Well, to make an extremely long story short, my Wife and I have been trying to have a child for about 16 months now.. after being unsuccessful for a few months, my Wife spoke to her Gynecologist and was advised that sometimes it takes a while and is normal for up to a year. Well as time progressed, she ran some tests and saw that Her progesterone level was low and was prescribed regimens of Clomid to help with ovulation and progesterone. After a couple months of nothing, my Wife was told to have a HSG done to check for blockage in Her fallopian tubes, which came back clear.

 

Top that off, a few months ago, I found blood in my semen which was really red day one, and then pinkish the next couple days, and ended a little brownish. I called my Physician and he said it was most likely a broken vessel but recommended seeing a Urologist, which would also be able to do a semen analysis.

 

I went to the specialist and he did an overlook of me and I described what happened and he was certain it was a broken vessel versus something serious. He gave me a Rx to get a semen analysis done and special blood work.. I then abstained for the required time period and went to one of the places he gave me that does the analysis and when I went in to drop off the sample, they said they no longer take it. I then quickly drove to the next nearest and the same issue, so unfortunately that sample was wasted. I had to wait another week or so since my Wife was ovulating after the first sample.. Last week I was finally able to find a place that does it and went last Tuesday. I hadn't heard back so I called the Urologist and it turns out, he's on vacation, so I had them mail me a copy of the results so I could at least do some research. I also went this past Tuesday for the blood work so hopefully when the doc returns from vacation, he can review all the results.

 

Looking at the results that came in the mail today, it looks like the issue may be me.. the sperm count is normal, but the quality of some appears to be below par.

 

Hopefully I will hear soon what we can do to correct this, hopefully it does not involve IVF, since I heard it can cost up to $25K for one try..

 

One of the things that really bothers us is that there are people popping out kids left and right that are not deserving, abusive, drug addicts, low lives, etc, yet my Wife and I who have a great relationship, great family and friends, good jobs, and whatnot, have all this trouble.

 

My little cousin has been on and off with his gf, they've had a few abortions, two children, all before they were even 21. They have crappy jobs, abuse the system, do drugs, very irresponsible and yet they have children.

 

this is insane and very stressful. I apologize for pouring out my problems on this wonderful forum, but I feel like if I kept it bottled up any longer, I might explode. I've seen the support this community has to offer and appreciate any guidance. We haven't really told many people that we have been trying. My Parents know, my Sister knows, and recently, my Wife told her Mom, which means the world may actually know because she can never keep a secret..

 

/rant for now

 

update: My Wife will be 28 in October, and I will be 27 in August..

Edited July 26, 2012 by MAYBEN

[JBlack151]

I don't have any knowledge of your situation and wish the best for you and your wife. You must always remain positive and hope for the best.

 

Please keep us updated. My wife and I are in the process of going over our current lifestyles and discussing if now is the time to have kids. I'm almost 33 and she is 28. She is extremely busy finishing off her masters program along with working 3 jobs. I'm ready for kids, however I want to make sure all our finances are in order first.

 

Even though it is hard to imagine now there is always the other options for you guys to have a child. Artificial insemination, adoption, etc. Honestly I wouldn't hesitate to adopt a child at all. I just feel this need to want to provide for a child who's parents didn't have the means to provide for the child. But I understand the urge to have a child of your own. I'm sure all will work out for you guys!

 

I'm interested to hear what other forum members have to offer about this. Like you said, we are all one big family here and we all wish the best for others here. From their health, families, finances, education and so much more. Let us know how you make out with your results, and in the meantime keep good spirits and the best will come from this no matter what bro.

[wtrbxr]

I completely understand where you are and where you have been. My wife and I had the same issue tried for over 18 months many tests and nothing. All checked out except for the strength of the swimmers just like you. We as a couple decided to see a naturopathic doctor. He prescribed some cream for my wife and some supplements to strengthen the little guys for me( I can't remember what the supplements were.) We then decided as a couple we were not going to worry about this anymore and came to the conclusion that what ever happens happens. Well some 4 months later she was late and we had our beautiful baby. We wanted many children but have never been able to conceive since. Life sometimes does not seem fair but it is what we do with what where dealt that defines us. We will keep you in our thoughts and prayers.

[MAYBEN]

I'm hoping that the doc will have a remedy.. I don't even want to think about adoption at this point as We definitely want to have our own..

 

I know there is IVF, but that is really expensive and still isn't even guaranteed..

[Blue04SSS]

I look at life like this: it isnt always fair and things may not always seem right at that point. But everything always happens for a reason. You may have to try for a while before something wonderful happens. My sister wasnt supposed to be able to have kids. She has 3 now my girls aunt wasnt able to have kids and ended up getting pregnant in her 40's. I know a lot of people who have had problems having children or in the process. Its very stressful and sometimes very expensive. Just keep your head up and dont let it get you down. There are always options just keep positive and dont forget the practice of trying to have kids is great if you know what i mean.

[paoutdoorsman]

Nick, I have no experience with what you're going through, but hang in there bud and remain positive. We have close friends who struggled to concieve as well, and I know it can be stressful. Thoughts and prayers for you man!

[Team Adam's]

Sorry to hear about the struggles... keep your head up, I'm sure things will work out and if they don't theres things like adoption, surrogacy, etc.

 

Also, keep in mind what Spice06 said -

 

it isnt always fair and things may not always seem right at that point.

 

I'm by no means a religious person, but the universe has a way of lining things up for us. The way they are is the way they're supposed to be. I went thru a 'why us' very dark/angry phase after Tanner was diagnosed over 3 years ago... I remember thinking how it was so unfair that other people who were horrible parents got to have typical children and typical parenting experiences, while my family was always going to be different and always going to struggle with the challenges of Autism to some degree or another. I was bitter, jealous, mad, frustrated... it ate me alive inside.

 

Its not a healthy place to be... it wears on you. Accept the situation and what you can control. Explore your options and try to fix the problem, if it can't be fixed try to find the meaning in it. My situation has made me a completely different person. I have more patience and more love in me than I ever could have imagined. I'm a better father, a better husband, and a better person today because of what Tanner and our situation has taught me.

 

Not saying our situations are the same, but sometimes a challenge or difficulty is a gift. It will teach you something about yourself, about the world, or force you change something, hopefully for the better.

 

In the end there is only so much you can control and the rest is going to happen however it was destined to. Whatever the outcome, embrace it and take those challenges head on.

[MAYBEN]

It's rough.. I'm going to have to play it by ear..

 

I appreciate the support everyone!

 

It just seems like its one test after another these past couple years..

[Captain Slow]

I was hoping to find out if any of the Adam's Family has had similar issues or experience with this. I apologize in advance for being a little graphic.

 

Well, to make an extremely long story short, my Wife and I have been trying to have a child for about 16 months now.. after being unsuccessful for a few months, my Wife spoke to her Gynecologist and was advised that sometimes it takes a while and is normal for up to a year. Well as time progressed, she ran some tests and saw that Her progesterone level was low and was prescribed regimens of Clomid to help with ovulation and progesterone. After a couple months of nothing, my Wife was told to have a HSG donune to check for blockage in Her fallopian tubes, which came back clear.

 

Top that off, a few months ago, I found blood in my semen which was really red day one, and then pinkish the next couple days, and ended a little brownish. I called my Physician and he said it was most likely a broken vessel but recommended seeing a Urologist, which would also be able to do a semen analysis.

 

I went to the specialist and he did an overlook of me and I described what happened and he was certain it was a broken vessel versus something serious. He gave me a Rx to get a semen analysis done and special blood work.. I then abstained for the required time period and went to one of the places he gave me that does the analysis and when I went in to drop off the sample, they said they no longer take it. I then quickly drove to the next nearest and the same issue, so unfortunately that sample was wasted. I had to wait another week or so since my Wife was ovulating after the first sample.. Last week I was finally able to find a place that does it and went last Tuesday. I hadn't heard back so I called the Urologist and it turns out, he's on vacation, so I had them mail me a copy of the results so I could at least do some research. I also went this past Tuesday for the blood work so hopefully when the doc returns from vacation, he can review all the results.

 

Looking at the results that came in the mail today, it looks like the issue may be me.. the sperm count is normal, but the quality of some appears to be below par.

 

Hopefully I will hear soon what we can do to correct this, hopefully it does not involve IVF, since I heard it can cost up to $25K for one try..

 

One of the things that really bothers us is that there are people popping out kids left and right that are not deserving, abusive, drug addicts, low lives, etc, yet my Wife and I who have a great relationship, great family and friends, good jobs, and whatnot, have all this trouble.

 

My little cousin has been on and off with his gf, they've had a few abortions, two children, all before they were even 21. They have crappy jobs, abuse the system, do drugs, very irresponsible and yet they have children.

 

this is insane and very stressful. I apologize for pouring out my problems on this wonderful forum, but I feel like if I kept it bottled up any longer, I might explode. I've seen the support this community has to offer and appreciate any guidance. We haven't really told many people that we have been trying. My Parents know, my Sister knows, and recently, my Wife told her Mom, which means the world may actually know because she can never keep a secret.

/rant for now

 

update: My Wife will be 28 in October, and I will be 27 in August..

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:worth:

I'm glad no one has put that up...

 

Seriuosly, we spent years and umpteen thousands doing the same as you two are doing. Clomid, ahhh that brings back memories. Ovudrel injections also brings back memories, nothing like boom chickie wow wow on an unknown surprise schedule.

Lovely Mrs: "Honey, it's time."

Me: " But the Sox game is on."

Lovely Mrs. "Now!"

Talk about foreplay!!!

 

We ended up setting a deadline and if nothing happened by then we were considering it a sign from above. We each had picked out a motorcycle, crotch rocket for her, big noisy Harley for me if the deadline passed. Well two moths short of the deadline we got the twins. I suggested naming them Harley and Ducati but fortunately got overruled.

 

I wish you two the best and if you'd like feel free to PM me for info and or advice.

[AngryPolska]

Nick, I had the exact same thing as you're describing. It took my wife and I nearly 2 years to finally have our first one.

 

We did all the testing and found out it was me. My sperm count was fine, it was their "inactivity" that was the problem. They were just kind of chillin' not doing much.

 

So the doctor put me on testosterone patches and recommended a strict intercourse schedule when she was ovulating. EVERY OTHER DAY. No sooner, no later.

 

Next thing we know, BAM! she's pregnant.

 

So ask your doctor about testosterone

Edited July 26, 2012 by AngryPolska

[Chewy]

A gal at work got prego at 18 and it was an "oops". They got married and tried again 4-5 years later and tried and tried as they may, they couldn't get pregnant, she was on all the drugs and this that and the other, then 12 years after the first one, having gotten off all the drugs, all but given up on the prospect of having another, BAM pregnant... 14 months after that one, BAM pregnant... The two kids were born on the same day two years apart. WTH!!!

 

Personally, I say relax, screw like bunnies, and let the stress of it go. You're VERY young. My wife and I didn't have our first until we were 36.

 

I'm not sure how you track her schedule, but we used the iPhone app. 2 weeks and BAM... I wish it could have taken longer. lol

 

Chris

[MAYBEN]

Seriuosly, we spent years and umpteen thousands doing the same as you two are doing. Clomid, ahhh that brings back memories. Ovudrel injections also brings back memories, nothing like boom chickie wow wow on an unknown surprise schedule.

Lovely Mrs: "Honey, it's time."

Me: " But the Sox game is on."

Lovely Mrs. "Now!"

Talk about foreplay!!!

Ain't that the truth..

 

So ask your doctor about testosterone

I think that could be what the blood test was for

 

Personally, I say relax, screw like bunnies, and let the stress of it go. You're VERY young. My wife and I didn't have our first until we were 36.

I know we're young, but we're more than ready to expand and would like to have them sooner than later, I'd like to be able to do the same things my Dad does for me, for my Kids.. my Dad will be 51 Friday and my Mother will be 49 the following week.. My father-in-law is 70 next month and monster-in-law just turned 65 last month.. there is definitely a difference in who is capable of doing what..

[redneck08sierra]

it sucks. Like you said, why us? Why can't we get pregnant when others who don't deserve children can pop kids out left and right? Prayer is a powerful tool. Letting your friends/family know what is going on can help b/c they can provide a support system to get you through difficult times. I wish I could say I know what you are going through but I can't. My wife and I are blessed with 2 boys. But my best friend and his wife have been in your situation. They tried for over a year to get pregnant naturally and both got checked to see what was going on. As they found out, the male had the issue. then went through 3 rounds of ivf...and yes, it was $15k a pop...it's not cheap but they were determined to have children and then after the 3rd round didn't take, they accepted the fact that God for some reason didn't want them to have children naturally. But, this doesn't rule out adoption. And I'll be honest, during the times they were going through IVF, they did seclude themselves b/c they felt like failures and didn't want to see their friends. But after the 3rd try, they did say that was probably one of the worst things they could do was to seclude themselves and neglected the support system they needed.

 

One thing, stay open with your wife, stay committed to her needs. This will test your marriage but if you have been trying for 16 mos, you haven't given up and don't give up.

 

Good luck and wish y'all the best

 

Jeff

[Feets31]

We had a silimar problem and now have 3 kids. We had twins the second time around. Wear boxer shorts and tigh fitting pants. Eat better. The wife will likely be put on fertility drugs.

[MAYBEN]

She's been on Clomid, which is only recommended for 6 months, which this is the 6th month..

 

I've yet to hear from the doc, but looking at the results from my SA, there is definitely a problem with me..

 

Boxer briefs my friend..

[70'sChevyGirl]

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:worth:

I'm glad no one has put that up...

:lolsmack:

 

 

 

I really have no advice but I was curious as to what others have come up with.

 

Carry on.

[Green Machine]

Nick is it ok with your wife to publish the issues you guys are having? My wife would be pissed. But I understand you asking for advise or people's stories because this forum feels like family!! IMO I feel this is a too private a matter for a public forum!!! Good luck with everything !

[MAYBEN]

I spoke to my Wife before posting this.. I'd like to think that it would stay on here, I wouldn't think anyone would plaster it all over Facebook and whatnot..

[Chewy]

Nick is it ok with your wife to publish the issues you guys are having? My wife would be pissed. But I understand you asking for advise or people's stories because this forum feels like family!! IMO I feel this is a too private a matter for a public forum!!! Good luck with everything !

 

We all have our comfort level. I personally wouldn't do it, but commend him for it. It's not graphic in any way and IMO it's a fact of life for MANY people today.

 

I spoke to my Wife before posting this.. I'd like to think that it would stay on here, I wouldn't think anyone would plaster it all over Facebook and whatnot..

 

Does she use the iPhone app? It worked VERY well for us.

[Green Machine]

I spoke to my Wife before posting this.. I'd like to think that it would stay on here, I wouldn't think anyone would plaster it all over Facebook and whatnot..

 

Good deal! Just thought if this was happening to me! I wish you guys the best!!!!!!

[MAYBEN]

Does she use the iPhone app? It worked VERY well for us.

 

She is using one, she likes it for what it is..

[AngryPolska]

Boxer briefs my friend..

 

That's the other thing I forgot to mention that my doctor recommended, was wearring boxers. Not briefs, regular boxers.

[Bill-V8V]

Good things happen to good people Nick, i'm sure you'll be blessed when the time is right

 

 

If not you can always adopt me, It would be great, I already have all my own toys so I wouldn't cost you much

[MAYBEN]

I know you're supposed to love your child no matter if they're ugly or not, but if I adopted you Bill, I don't know what I would do..

[Captain Slow]

While we were waiting for one of the many ultrasounds a woman in the waiting room said to her husband (who had returned after being in the back room preparing a 'sample for testing') "You never take that long at home!"

 

We wondered how the drive home went after that!

 

Another visit for ultrasound almost gave me a heart attack. The nurse did the ultrasound, stopped and then called in a second nurse. She told us "it's not bad news, I just want confirmation." Nurse #2 did the ultrasound then asked us "How do you feel about triplets?" My wife started crying and I swear my heart stopped for a brief moment. They then called in the Doctor who looked at the ultrasounds and announced it was just a shadow from the two babies.:willy: